How do I Get Over my Introverted Nature and be Able to Form Good Networks?

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This is a very common question and the good news is that introverts can be very good networkers! I’ve written about it several times. See my tips for maintaining professional relationships even as an introvert and my clever networking tips for introverts. I even teach a workshop on it.

But let’s look at your question specifically. You don’t need to “get over” being an introvert, you need to “use” being introverted to your advantage!

Introverts are often great networkers and here’s some reasons why:

  • Introverts are better listeners and are more engaged in conversation
  • Extroverts are often times waiting for their next opportunity to chime in and talk, an therefore aren’t as focused as introverts
  • Introverts typically are more inclined to follow up with people, a very important aspect to networking and building relationships

Like anyone who networks, it’s important to prepare. Do research on people you want to speak to and think about what you want to say before beginning the conversation. If you’re at a networking event, stand in spots where people will be forced to come up to you, like near the bar or near the bathroom. That could take away the stress of approaching someone cold.

You can also use social media to your advantage. The best networks are built in-person, but that doesn’t mean it can’t start online. Find the people you want to reach out to and read their various online profiles whether it be on different social sites or on their company website. Find out where you have common ground and where you can be of value to that person. Just keep in mind that a first impression online is just as important as a first impression in person. When reaching out to someone cold, carefully craft a custom message. Don’t just send a friend or connection request with no message or a generic message. Once you build a little bit of a rapport through online conversation, ask to schedule a one-on-one meeting in person. That might be more comfortable for introverts than a large event with lots of people.

Becoming NetWorkWise Certified will guide you through the steps necessary to build out your network whether you’re an introvert or not.

It’s great to see you value networking and it’s one of the most important skills you can have. And it’s a skill even an introvert can perfect.

Make it a great day and remember to NetWorkWise!

This article originally appeared on Quora.

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